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It's amazing when my 5-year-old comes home talking about the history behind MLK day. When I was in Kindergarten, we learned our color...

Friday, August 29, 2008

McCain and Palin 2008

Either way this election goes, it will be revolutionary. I, for one, am very excited about McCain's pick for VP. I had a gut feeling a few days ago he'd pick a female.

What are your thoughts? Does this effect your decision if you're a Democrat? Does it give you incentive to get out and vote if you're Republican?

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Who would play in your movie?

I've been tagged to cast my own movie. My poor memory seems to recall it was by speedy. He cast his own, which got me thinking...A movie about my life, although interesting, may not hold up with just anyone. So who would play me and my loved ones?

Well my hubbie seems to think we're very 'King of Queens' in demeanor and in casting. The slightly portly funny guy with the cute wife...so I think my pick for he and I would have to be Kevin James and Leah Remeni.
Like them, we're a couple, who like to banter and banter...in love. We like to have fun, but get frustrated easily. BUT not enough for it to become a fight...only enough to end up shaking our heads and then laugh it off later.

My lovely sister would be played by Ashley Judd. She's the beautiful tough girl, who doesn't let most people know she has a soft side. If you're lucky enough, you'll see it. She makes everyone laugh and everyone loves her. I think Ashley would be a great pick for her.

My son would be played by himself, b/c I don't think there would be anyone cuter or more funny than he. I won't post a picture of him here, as I never do. SO you'll have to take my word on it. He's quite a ham, and wouldn't have a problem pulling it off.

My father, whose been told he looks like Steve McQueen his whole life, could only be portrayed by the legend himself. If he were alive, Steve McQueen would be a great cast for my father. Since he's not...Ed Harris would be a great second.

My mother, graceful elegant and quirky, could only be cast as Audrey Hepburn. My mom, dark skin, hair, and eyes would be portrayed easily by her if Audrey were still with us. Since she's not, I'd normally try to find a good second choice. But there's not one actress that would come to mind that would be as beautiful as my mom, in their 50-60 range. We'd have to find an Audrey look alike.

As far as anyone else....my brain is tired. Those are my top picks. I took this meme on b/c my husband have been talking about my book and turning it into a screen play. We've been discussing who would play the certain parts. And as they say write what you know, there is a little of everyone I love in "Finding Kylie". So it's been a subject on my mind anyway.

Who would play you?

Friday, August 22, 2008

This week...

So if you didn't notice...I've taken a few days off from this blog. I can't maintain everything, all the time. Although my son and husband think I do. :)

My sweet companion of 14 years, had to be put down this week. It was the hardest thing I've ever done. My son is coping okay...he cried again today before taking him to school. I know I've had to stop myself when looking for him outside, wondering why I didn't see him in the yard. I've stopped myself from looking for him on the ground, when I get up to pee in the middle of the night, as I would always trip over him. He followed me everywhere I went. He was so much a part of my day in small ways I didn't even recognize until now.

Well my son is experiencing the same thing. He put his plate down on the couch this morning, mid breakfast. And reached to pick it up, so Hershey wouldn't eat his food. He quickly put it back down and started crying. "I miss him mom." Afterwards he had plenty of questions for me, that helped take the focus of his sadness, like, "Is heaven a big building with the sun and moon, and lots of houses inside?"
"I know heaven's streets are made with paint...gold paint. Isn't that right?"

I chuckled at his insight and curiosity, and answered him honestly on each one he had for me.

I never realized how hard it would be to be the rock for my son. To reassure him that our 14 year old 'puppy' is in a better place, and show the strength he needs from me to know he can be strong too.

We're better today as it's been a few days, but I'm amazed at how much my son is teaching me through this experience. Kids are so gentle and kind, and loving. I'm humbled and blessed to be his mommy.

Sunday, August 17, 2008

Feelin Sequelish

So in the last week I've been taking looots of notes to stimulate the start of my sequel. I've decided to put an excerpt in the back of Finding Kylie, to interest readers to look for the second book, On The Verge.

It's a daunting task to take on, knowing the bar has been set high with the first book, but I'm way up to the challenge. The notes I've been taking are already starting to formulate a framework for the storyline and characters.

I've mentioned in previous posts that I'm a dream writer. Some of my best stuff comes to me at 2 a.m., which is the magic hour for me. I know God places these plots and character twists in my head and prompts me to wake up enough to remember what ran through my mind. So for two days I've been simmering. A great start to my second book hit me at 2 a.m. and has stuck in my mind waiting to be put on paper.

My mother keeps saying, "I hope you're writing all these ideas you're having down so you don't forget."

For those that don't know me, I forget a loooot of little details when it comes to my life. Like what time or date we've made family plans. Or which day I'm supposed to do something important. Some years even my anniversary date escapes me...hmmm the 20th or the 22nd?

In order to remember my anniversary, I have to walk through who my husband's favorite baseball player is, Will Clark #22. He picked the 22nd, so that he wouldn't forget. Smart guy!

BUT with writing...nothing is forgotten. I don't have to write it down. Although I write notes to formulate a plan, I don't have to write them to remember them. It's like breathing for me...knowing how to start and finish....and learning what to set in the middle. So after simmering along for the last couple of days I finally started my book on my computer, so that I could email my publisher an excerpt.

I feel at peace with how it starts and know it will get the reader excited about the new book.

Thursday, August 14, 2008

His first crush

My son never has a problem finding a pretty girl. They chase him and he loves it. He's five and such a little ladies man.

Today was his first day of Kindergarten. I didn't cry either..as he's so confident and ready to start school. It made it easier for me.

This after noon when I picked him up, I asked the usual questions to inquire about his day. Open ended questions that led to conversation vs yes or no questions.

Me: "What did you do on the playground today?"

Little T: "Chased girls..." (with a smile) "I looooove to chase girls!"

Me: "Any in particular? How about the girl who sits next to you? Ashlee?"

Little T: "Ooooo. She's so pretty mom. I don't want to come home. I just wanna be with her right now!"

Me: (eyebrows up) "really?"

Little T: "Oh yeah, I can't wait to go back tomorrow to see her. She's just so pretty mom."
And he continued, "And she grabbed me when we left to hold on to me. She grabbed my arm, and my back pack and my legs!"

Me: (thinking they all had to hold hands on the way out to pick up)
"so did everyone hold hands to walk out to car pool?"

Little T: "Oh no. She just grabbed me and it was so much it gave me an owie! She hurt me! But she's so pretty."

Oh man...I'm already in the midst of puppy love at 5 years old. What's it gonna be like when he's 17?

"Mom, she hurt me...but it's okay cuz she's sooooo pretty?"

Am I in trouble or what?

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Kimberly McKay's new book site

Hey all announcing my publisher's website for your reading enjoyment, showcasing a page on... you guessed it! It's a page telling all you'd want to know about my book and me...go see it and let me know your thoughts here!

Click here!

I can't tell you how excited I am that this project is on track. I have one local book store agreeing to sell it in OKC. I've got a few others waiting till it's actually printed so they can see it.

I'm currently waiting for a few reviews for press releases. And next is finalizing the edit job to ensure the whole package is as tight as it can be.

Saturday, August 09, 2008

Wii'd out Woman

My husband bought me a Wii for my birthday. Well let me clarify that he didn't think I could wait for my birthday, so I received it 'unwrapped' 3 days early, because he didn't think I could wait......Ha!

It was a week before we were to leave on our vacation, so we let our son play it a little more than we should. After all we were leaving in about a week, and had lots of things to do in preparation for our trip. So a little more time on it here and there was the lazy way out for us...for me.

Then when we got back about a week and a half ago. It was, "I wanna play the Wii"...."I wanna play the Wii". I didn't go overboard on it, but he again played it more than normal. It was about an hour and a half a day....not all at once....but in it's entirety. And it was always after lunch...as morning is too early for any media.

I feel I'm a baaaad mom for letting it get that far.

So this week....I'm Wii'd out! School starts in a few days, and I'm tired of him whining when he can't play the Wii. I started cutting him off slowly a week ago. Little bit by little bit. I'm seriously thinking cold turkey would have been better.

Today finally we set some serious boundaries for him. My husband turned the microwave timer on...One 1/2 hour time limit for the Wii. And I made a list of chores, that I call Wii chores.

We used to keep a chart for his behavior issues and praises, that helped him earn money or activities. That no longer holds interest for him anymore. So I adapted it today to be Wii centered.

He has a list of 8 or so things he must get done during the day before playing his 1/2 hour.

So far today...has been awesome! He's cleaned up his toys, sorted his laundry, made his bed, cleaned his room, sorted my laundry, put up folded laundry, brushed his teeth, and listened to instruction verrrry well.

Sunday, August 03, 2008

The history of this blog...

When I started this blog it was to express the frustrations involved when you have to work, and still balance being a mom. I worked a 8-5 job, that left no room for kids and their schedules. I had 3 sleep disorders which just seemed to aggravate the work situation as well.

Life was fine as a professional woman, until I became a mom. The very first week I returned from maternity leave, I faced a female boss, who resented women that had children. As she couldn't have any, her mission was to punish those who could. She took me out of my outside sales territory, that was near my son's day care and put me in a far south territory, that held lower income areas and much further distances for breastfeeding. Instead of being 15 miles from my child for a lunch break, I was 50+ miles.

So not only did I put more miles on my car, but by the time I was ready to breast feed or pump...I either had to pull over in 'the hood' to pump and hope no one would walk up and see me...or pray a trucker didn't drive by and look down for a looksie. It was either that or drive 50 extra miles, to get to my son, which left me so engorged...I couldn't steer or move. She thought this daily grind would make me quit. IT didn't!

I got a new boss soon, thank the Lord! But the environment still wasn't ideal for mommy-hood. I had to be there too early and stay too late. We had meetings before work and after work. I knew when school started in a few years, I'd have to find another job that allowed me to drop him to school and then get to work.

This schedule left me worn out and frustrated, because by the time I picked up my little angel I wasn't the mom I needed to be. I wasn't rested and ready to play. I wasn't patient and forgiving of hyperness. I wasn't easy going or laid back. I was all of the opposites. I was a wornoutwoman, who needed to make a better life for her son.

When my son turned 3, I knew things had to change. I took steps to make sure I had time for him...by taking a work from home job. Unfortunately, it has since changed to an office position. I recently left that job b/c I couldn't keep the schedule of a mommy, as I was promised when I started. I want to do what ever I can - not to earn my name, wornoutwoman. I want to give my son a better environment than that. I want a better me than that.

Because I've been out of work for a month I'm so relaxed. I've slept and slept in with my son. So for the moment I'm thankful that I'm all but wornoutwoman. Even though I'm more rested, I still can't give up my moniker. I've grown to love it too much. Not only because it fit me for so long, and may again someday (hopefully not). But because it represents ALL women and men, who struggle with the balance of work and family.

I applaud all of you, whether you're full time working or stay at home parents. You, who do what you can to make your children's life a better place, are truly the ones who deserve any support out their to give.

Unfortunately there's not many places that support working or stay at home parents. Corporate America hasn't found out that mommies work hard to provide for their babies...and maybe they should cater to them instead of punish them. Some companies won't admit it...but they're harder on mom's than any other because of kids who get sick...because of kids who have doctor's appointments...because of kid's who have to get to school. I pray one of these days our society will change enough to have a clear vision of the power of an empowered mom or dad.

I think I've rambled enough. I've just had a lot on my mind as my professional status has been changing. I'm getting ready to get a PT job to supplement our income until my substitute teaching schedule kicks in. This job truly will cater to my son's schedule! :) I will be working toward building my photography business as well. One day I'll strictly work for me! And this girl will be her own boss....a boss that will reward being a mom!

Friday, August 01, 2008

With this cool design....

So when I downloaded this fun design...I LOST MY BLOGROLL!

Please don't be offended if you log on and see you're not on my favs any more. Please do leave me a comment though, so that I can grab your address quickly to add it back. I would really appreciate it. That way I don't have to search the web for all million of you.

Love to you today! I'm still in my pajama's! Ahhhh! I really have to get back into the swing of some sort of schedule. Reality is gonna hit hard in the next couple of weeks when my son's school starts.