tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19896003.post4345575474318813006..comments2023-08-17T04:16:23.627-05:00Comments on Wornoutwoman: Calling for Parent's InputKimberly McKayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12221063798391890358noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19896003.post-21533382659057632272007-10-28T01:42:00.000-05:002007-10-28T01:42:00.000-05:00Wow, I have not had to come across this yet, but I...Wow, I have not had to come across this yet, but I am sure I will. It seems like you did a wonderful job handleing the situation, better than I would of done. I always hate having to be the mean mommy, but I want to be the mommy rather than the friend I guess, just as long as they know we love them and are there to protect them and help them succeed.Sleeping Beautyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03775123431358031624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19896003.post-86937411579089911662007-10-25T21:56:00.000-05:002007-10-25T21:56:00.000-05:00Sounds like things worked out. I haven't had to de...Sounds like things worked out. I haven't had to deal with that kind of discipline yet but my son is giving me a hard time lately as well. Glad he's making good choices (and sleeping through the night).Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12731583979680673836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19896003.post-24434905708880658182007-10-25T20:54:00.000-05:002007-10-25T20:54:00.000-05:00I've used similar tactics. Although with my son, ...I've used similar tactics. Although with my son, giving him a certain number of chances before he completely lost a privilege didn't work. When he lost all his chances, he just quit caring. So we had to start at nothing and have him work towards his goal. But I say, if this is working for you, go for it. Every child is different and not all methods work with all kids. Sounds to me like your son gets it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19896003.post-30103100720881283102007-10-25T11:15:00.000-05:002007-10-25T11:15:00.000-05:00I used to teach 3 year olds and I made a traffic l...I used to teach 3 year olds and I made a traffic light out of construction paper and put each childs name on a clothespin. They started everyday with their clothespin on the green light and with full privileges, but if they broke class rules they moved their clip to the yellow light which was a warning and then if they continued the would be in the red light which meant certain toys would be off limits or some time on the playground would be cut. This visual cue worked for the whole class, and they really learned from it. Oh, they could also work their way back up, because there must be forgiveness, so if I saw them cleaning up their mess, sharing, etc. they could move their clip back up..."earning" back their privileges. I think you did the right thing too, I just hope this helps give you another idea...whatever works, right?, I enjoy your blog very much.Kikihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03206946600984174783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19896003.post-47856714653156375792007-10-25T00:12:00.000-05:002007-10-25T00:12:00.000-05:00I agree with Tam you've done fine.I agree with Tam you've done fine.Lozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10513517402604501840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19896003.post-57567449309338725652007-10-24T20:31:00.000-05:002007-10-24T20:31:00.000-05:00Thanks to you both. I just want to make sure I wa...Thanks to you both. I just want to make sure I was on the right track. I know sticking to your guns is important, and thankfully my son knows that what I say does go. So if I say he'll lose them with 5 strikes....he'll lose them. You both gave me some great feedback. I guess I never thought I'd have to deal with school disciplinary issues this early.Kimberly McKayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12221063798391890358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19896003.post-33238595017927170222007-10-24T16:27:00.000-05:002007-10-24T16:27:00.000-05:00How can you be stumped? You did it! This is what i...How can you be stumped? You did it! This is what is working for your child. You've communicated the consequence of good and bad behavior. <BR/><BR/>Bad choices at school - lose drums<BR/>Good choices - "Merry Snare Drum Christmas!"<BR/><BR/>I say, well done!Tamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15493580725924467281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19896003.post-64192579016973214852007-10-24T15:58:00.000-05:002007-10-24T15:58:00.000-05:00My kids are 18 and 22, so I've definitely been the...My kids are 18 and 22, so I've definitely been there. This is a tough topic and you're likely to get many differing opinions. I'm just going to tell you what worked for us. You are right on by stressing the importance of good choices. Two things that I believe are key. First, your son needs to understand and experience the consequences and rewards of the choices he makes. 4 1/2 years old is not too young for that. It's also important that you explain why you think the choice is a good one or a bad one. While parents think, "Because I said so!", should be adequate, it just doesn't hold any water with the kiddos. Second, <BR/>if you tell your son that he will not get the drums as a result of his bad choices, then you need to be sure you stick to your guns and not get him those drums. He needs to know that you mean what you say. We need to have credibility with our kids. It hurts us when we have to be the "mean ol' mommy or daddy". Trust me. I know. But the sooner our kids understand that choices matter, the easier it will be when they are older and the choices become harder and more than a set of drums are at stake.<BR/><BR/>Hang in there...it does get easier, I promise!<BR/><BR/>David.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com